What you write in your first dating message to someone you want to contact is EXTREMELY important, after your dating photo and your dating profile (read tips on writing a dating profile). It determines whether or not you'll get a reply, a second message and eventually a date in person.
I am assuming here that you are looking for a meaningful, stable,
long-term (or however you want to call it) relationship. However, even
if you are looking for "no string attached" type of things, the tips
here may be helpful.
In my experience and study of dating websites, most of times I
received messages as telegraphic as "Hi" and nothing more than "How are
Guess what I did? Never replied.
Otherwise many times men were asking me "What do you do?" or "Where
do you live?" These questions could have been answered by simply
reading my profile. Also, if you read the dating profile of the person
you are writing to, you'll have something to talk about and you will
show a real interest in that person, not just in a nice picture. This
is particularly appreciated by women.
Receiving empty and poor messages is so boring that I've decided to
write here what I feel would be more exciting to receive, so you know
and take advantage of this.
I'm talking as a woman receiving messages from men but the following advice can be applied to messages sent by woman to men.
Do some preparation before you write your first dating message.
Of course, we all are affected by how people look like and that's why it is so important to have a good profile photo. So, let's say you found a woman or a man you like and want to send your first dating message. Assuming this person has a well-written profile:
Try using these tips and see how it goes. Best wishes!